
As students and police clash in Mong Kok,
families and churches fall divided against themselves, and facebook users face
a flurry of 'unfriending', we are all told of the need for dialogue. Well, duh!
But what is dialogue? How is it different from any other way of talking
together and how do we do it?
Politics would appear to be, even
by definition, decidedly adversarial. Elections
produce winners and losers;
legislatures are fields of conflict where the ruling government is held
accountable by the constant challenges of the official opposition. Where does dialogue fit into that picture?I
I ran as a candidate
for the Green Party in the 2001 Alberta
Provincial election in Canada. No Green Party Candidate stood
a chance – I knew that (I received only 334 votes) but the reason I
participated was to promote dialogue on important issues and to participate in
the democratic process. I believe strongly in dialogue and in the principle
that all sides of a discussion probably have important pieces of the puzzle
(the puzzle being whatever societal problem is being grappled with or solved by
the government) to bring to the table. It’s thus necessary to listen even to
one’s opponents because we can all learn from one another.

I shocked even my
own party members on one occasion as I demonstrated my commitment to this
understanding. An all candidates debate had
been organized at the U of C’s Students’ Union Building (our riding was Calgary
Varsity) and since I was a student with friends in the student’s union, I was
aware I could get a table set up on the day to promote my campaign. I was also
aware that none of the other candidates had done this. The day before the
debate I called up all the other candidates' election offices and as it was too
late for them to get their own tables, I invited them to share the table I had
booked and put up their signs around it and place their pamphlets there for
distribution as well. Only the NDP (Socialist) candidate responded to my
revolutionary offer. Even Green Party members thought I was crazy; “What
political candidate in their right mind, goes out of their way to promote the
opposition?” But, I insisted that my action had very much been in keeping with the
Green Party philosophy of valuing diversity and acting to preserve its full
expression in the public dialogue. We are all so deeply ensconced in the
oppositional way of thinking and speaking (argument) that even the very
progressive among us are not ready for the radical openness to the 'other' that
genuine dialogue demands.
The government system in Canada, is not structured in such a way
as to bring all the political voices expressed by citizens during the election
to the table of government. If you look at my own riding's results (linked
above) you will notice that the winning candidate, Murray Smith, received only
59% of the vote and yet would rpresent 100% of the electorate of this riding in the government. The other 40% of citizens voted for other parties. This 40% of
the electorate would go completely unrepresented in the government for the
following 4 years. Their voices were completely absent from the table of government
and this constitutes a serious flaw in the Canadian democratic system. It
utterly prevents a genuine dialogue where the views of the whole electorate are
represented in the conversation of government. Why does this matter? Most
certainly, the views of that missing 40% would have carried important truths to
the decision making process. There were parts of the puzzle missing when
decisions were made and all of society was poorer for it.
The point I am trying to make is that all sides of an issue express
at least parts of the truth of the whole issue. If we ignore one or more
perspectives on an issue - sides in a debate, if you prefer, then we impoverish
whatever outcome (decision) that will be produced in the end. Argument results
in just such an impoverishment, because the goal of argument is to win -
argument seeks to destroy the opponents' perspectives and have them completely
removed from the table having their own ideas fill the discussion
completely.
In teaching my students about the difference between argument and
dialogue, I asked them to consider the situation in Hong Kong at the present
time and to choose their own position by selecting one or more squares of paper
from a stack of yellow and blue papers. For those less aware with the Hong Kong
situation, Occupy Central supporters wear yellow ribbons while those opposed to
the protest are wearing blue. In most classes about 1/4 took yellow, 1/4 blue
and 1/2 took both yellow and blue. After assuring them that I would not let it
all descend into chaos but that we were going to discover together how to enter
into dialogue, they happily shared a list of strong arguments in support of
Blue( opposed to Occupy Central), which I wrote on the left side of the board
and Yellow (supporting Occupy Central) on the other. I pointed out that at the
present time each side was shouting at the other with the goal of either
getting their opponents to change their colour or, failing this, getting them
to shut up and/or disappear. If shouting doesn’t work, we decided, then the
argument may progress to throwing objects, physical fighting and in the worst
case scenario, all out war. This form of arguing
was, we all agreed, unworkable .
‘Dialogue’ on the other hand involves
discovering a shared question that could be considered central to the concerns
of both sides. So, I then asked the students to consider reasonable arguments of
both Yellow and Blue and to find what concern was shared by BOTH sides of this
debate. They all were fairly quick to come up with 'They both want HK to be a
better place."
“This,” I informed them, “would provide
the basis for a shared question,” which we worded simply, ‘How can we make Hong
Kong a better place?’ Dialogue involves shifting the centre of my thinking/speaking
from my own perspective (I happen to be Yellow) into the shared question. As a ‘Yellow.’
Dialoguing with a ‘Blue’ I would then be able to see how both Yellow and Blue raise
important concerns pertaining to our shared question about improving Hong Kong.
When arguing, I am certain that Yellow has all the answers, and similarly, that
Blue is 100% wrong. Whatever conclusions arise for me regarding improving Hong
Kong will be weaker if they are missing the important insights offered by the
Blues. Also, my feeling about Blues will soften when I shift from considering
them an enemy to realizing that we are dialoguing together with a shared
concern – in fact, we may actually come to regard one another as allies.
There is a great deal more to Dialogue than
this: being prepared to question our own assumptions standing first and foremost.
But one step at a time. Realizing that we share a fundamental question in
common with those we formerly took to be enemies will move us a lot closer to
engaging in dialogue and diffusing the divisive and destructive anger that has
been plaguing all levels of relationship in Hong Kong society.